Blessing Or Burden?
Every time you think you are at either a new beginning or an ending with your twin flame….soon afterwards, you discover that it is not so. It was just another layer, like an onion, being pulled back so you could get to what lies beneath it….which of course…is another layer!
It’s amazing isn’t it…to go through so much pain and then come to a plateau and take a few deep breaths and think….Oh…that’s it, I’ve actually done it!
Alas….Then it comes back again. The longing, the love, the forgiveness, the understanding of why things need to happen and why they go the way they do. We like to tell ourselves we don’t understand it but deep down, we know we just aren’t ready. Despite how much we like to say that we are ready and try to make it happen sooner, there is still more healing that needs to occur before we can really be with our twin flame.
There is also the sadness that only someone trying to let go of their twin flame can understand; the depth of sorrow, and the heartbreak that goes with it. It is truly heartbreaking. It is not need; it is deep disappointment at having been unable to make such a beautiful thing come together.
I believe, therein lies the problem….trying to make it happen as opposed to allowing it to happen in its own time and on its own terms.
We think we have to take control and make things go in a certain way but the reality is that life/our souls/our divinity will bring to us the experiences needed to come to that point where things can work out with our twin flames.
There Are Similarities...
Twin flame partners generally have the same issues as all the other twin flame partners…this is why there is so much on the internet of people just selling generic cards they pull for you from a deck and send you a pre-printed description…it is generally the same stuff over and over for people in this situation.
Unfortunately, this creates a lack of opportunity to get some personal and affordable help from someone who really understands how hard what you are going through is. It keeps twin flame partners starving for someone to really hear them, understand them, and support them on their journey. It’s a very hard, lonely road and it is made even more difficult by having to travel it alone, without anyone to really talk to about it.
If you have been in one of these connections for a while now, I want to say …congratulations on getting this far. I know how hard it is.
The truth is, you agreed to come into this if you were both ready to face it at some point. Have faith in yourself…if you weren’t up to the challenge, it wouldn’t have come along. It did come….so you are strong enough.
Believe In Yourself......
Believe in yourself and trust your process. Trust that you have within you, or can be guided to all the resources that you will need for this journey. It is a journey into the deepest, darkest depths of yourself ….and I know it’s hard….but isn’t it really a bit like an alcoholic drowning in a giant vat of whiskey? Sure it’s gonna kill them….but what a way to go LOL. No no, it won’t kill you….it will just feel like it at times! J
At the beginning, when we first find our twin flame, we can’t believe how amazing the connection is and how incredibly fortunate we feel. I remember saying….not everyone gets to experience a love this big, and it’s true. Don’t forget however, that whether you come together physically or permanently, or not, you have still experienced and shared a love bigger than most people are ever going to feel in their lifetime.
As difficulties arise, it all seems to look bleaker and bleaker. The prospects of being able to bring this incredible love into physical reality seems to slip through our fingers as we watch, unable to do anything to change the situation. What started out making us feel extremely lucky, begins to break our heart in a bigger way than any other connection ever has before. Suddenly all we can see is how much we want this relationship to come together and how sad we are that it doesn’t.
I know these times are very painful. The difficulty of feeling that never ending love and knowing that it is reciprocated by our twin flame…and still having distance between us and our partner is soul destroying.
At times like those, we need remind ourselves that this is all happening for the purpose of our spiritual growth. It is important. The harder something is, the more important it is. Try to remember the basic truth…You are already blessed by having experienced true love.
Focus on what you do have, not on what you don’t.